I don't know, i'm not sure. Since Tuesday, though, i have begun to lean towards being a believer. Here's why.
On most nights, i sleep dreamlessly. On the nights that i do dream, the visions are mostly not good. The scariest dream i have had is more than a decade ago, but i still can't seem to get over it; i have dreamed about something happening to my family's belongings, and have woken up next day to find that it has actually happened; and i've had flashes in my dream that almost seem like they are pieces of a puzzle that don't belong to the past or the near future, but sooner or later they do become reality. That's how bad and spooky my dreams can get.
A couple of months ago, though, i had a dream that i just couldn't explain away or get over. It involved my best friend. And a little boy. And a Tsunami.
I didn't wake up feeling terrified, just extremely uncomfortable. I think we managed to escape the destruction by getting to the airport of the place we were at.
Two days post the dream, i forgot about it. Life moved on.
I made travel plans with friends, went to Hyderabad, then to Hampi. Life was normal.
I made plans to go to Goa on the first weekend of March. Then my best friend called and told me that she wanted to go on a trip with me.
Now, the last time we travelled together was in college. After college, she got married, got busy with her husband, blah blah blah. So the fact that she called now and wanted to go somewhere - just her and me - was a big thing, and i didn't want to say no.
So i ditched plans to go to Goa, and started planning for other places. We considered Mangalore and then scrapped the idea because her husband wasn't comfortable with it(!) So we thought about it, and decided that the most feasible option for both was Goa. I agreed heartily - that's where i was planning to go anyway.
I started looking forward to the trip again, but that changed on Tuesday. Because the dream came back to me.
My best friend and I were going to Goa.
In my dream, that's where the Tsunami had happened.
And i've been feeling a little scared and a little uncomfortable ever since.
It may or may not come true. There is, after all, no little boy featuring in our lives. I think, in my dream, that the little boy was my best friend's baby. But she's not a mommy, and not going to be one anytime soon either.
If it has to happen, it will. I'm taking my chances and going anyway. Maybe i'm challenging fate, battling destiny. I don't know! But i'm going. And i'm going to make sure i say a proper goodbye to everybody before i do.
Bloody hell, i should've taken those swimming lessons.
Friday, February 25, 2011
Thursday, February 24, 2011
William Blake's speaking my mind...
"...And I watered it in fears,
Night and morning with my tears;
And I sunned it with smiles,
And with soft deceitful wiles.
And it grew both day and night,
Till it bore an apple bright.
And my foe beheld it shine.
And he knew that it was mine,
And into my garden stole
When the night had veiled the pole;
In the morning glad I see
My foe outstretched beneath the tree."
There's going to be blood on my hands this year. Or maybe a severe injury. To hope, to pride, to two-facedness, to spinelessness, to false impressions. To acting up, to pretending, to denying happiness.
I keep it all in, and it just grows and grows. Bloody hell.
Night and morning with my tears;
And I sunned it with smiles,
And with soft deceitful wiles.
And it grew both day and night,
Till it bore an apple bright.
And my foe beheld it shine.
And he knew that it was mine,
And into my garden stole
When the night had veiled the pole;
In the morning glad I see
My foe outstretched beneath the tree."
There's going to be blood on my hands this year. Or maybe a severe injury. To hope, to pride, to two-facedness, to spinelessness, to false impressions. To acting up, to pretending, to denying happiness.
I keep it all in, and it just grows and grows. Bloody hell.
Sunday, February 20, 2011
This time, last weekend...
...I had cleaned my entire room. I mean, entire. I dusted and swept everything in sight (and hidden from it).
...I arranged all my books - only close to 180, i am sorry to say - neatly, along with several other little things like a Santa i got for Christmas, a Happy Meal Pinocchio, candle stands, book marks, matchboxes, a reading light, a puzzle ball, a Happy Meal guitar and a tourist pass to the Rann of Kutch.
...I cleared the top of the shoe rack to make space for a vase, a candle lamp and another vase/holdall.
...I glammed up the dressing table with fairy lights.
...And i made this for the wall space over the shoe rack out of beads, lace, wire and more beads:
So now, during the day, the shoe rack area looks like this:
And in the night, it looks like this:
I'm liking very muchly!
Friday, February 18, 2011
Rudaali?
Growing old can mean getting enemas for some people, for others it can mean indulging in a few extra marital affairs because their spouse isn't making them happy. Then there are those who quit their jobs and decide to pursue their passions, or just pack up their bags and travel. It can mean receding hairlines, growing waistlines, sagging bustlines and shrinking willie-nillies.
As i grow older, though, i notice something totally different: my tear glands are on overdrive.
Now, i'm not an emotional person. But in the recent past, my parents have found me crying through Master Chef USA (when Faruq gets in, or when Adeliz is given that second chance and makes it, or when Sheena's asked to leave), Jhalak Dikhla Ja (when that chick from that stupid serial faints after doing some pathetic Samba and Bellydancing while her new beau - also her co-star from the same serial - gets sick with worry backstage), Die Hard 4 (Bruce Willis saying "I'm coming for you baby" and more such sub-standard stuff)... the list is endless. You name it, i've cried over it. I don't know who's more embarassed about it, them or me.
And all this from a person who had to force herself to cry while watching Titanic due to peer pressure. (Hey, i was in school then!)
It's a mystery to me. I cannot understand it. I cannot wrap my head around it. More importantly, i don't like it. Ironic, when it's real life that should prove more moving than TV. I mean, i've cried less over my last breakup than i have over the sorry dialogues and drama of My Sister's Keeper. What's the deal with that, i'd like to know.
Maybe i should just have my tear glands surgically removed or something. Then i can peacefully sit through things like the rerun of the three-fingered man being eliminated from the Master Chef kitchen...
Wait, is that a tear i can feel on my cheek? *blink blink*
Gaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!
As i grow older, though, i notice something totally different: my tear glands are on overdrive.
Now, i'm not an emotional person. But in the recent past, my parents have found me crying through Master Chef USA (when Faruq gets in, or when Adeliz is given that second chance and makes it, or when Sheena's asked to leave), Jhalak Dikhla Ja (when that chick from that stupid serial faints after doing some pathetic Samba and Bellydancing while her new beau - also her co-star from the same serial - gets sick with worry backstage), Die Hard 4 (Bruce Willis saying "I'm coming for you baby" and more such sub-standard stuff)... the list is endless. You name it, i've cried over it. I don't know who's more embarassed about it, them or me.
And all this from a person who had to force herself to cry while watching Titanic due to peer pressure. (Hey, i was in school then!)
It's a mystery to me. I cannot understand it. I cannot wrap my head around it. More importantly, i don't like it. Ironic, when it's real life that should prove more moving than TV. I mean, i've cried less over my last breakup than i have over the sorry dialogues and drama of My Sister's Keeper. What's the deal with that, i'd like to know.
Maybe i should just have my tear glands surgically removed or something. Then i can peacefully sit through things like the rerun of the three-fingered man being eliminated from the Master Chef kitchen...
Wait, is that a tear i can feel on my cheek? *blink blink*
Gaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!
Monday, February 14, 2011
Theories i learned from the Big Bang.
They were good people, they respected me, loved me in their own weird ways. They were wired differently and, like my soulmate keeps telling me occasionally, it was just bad timing that didn't keep us together.
So today, this post is dedicated to all the loves of my life. The times i spent with all of you were fulfilling, enriching, frustrating, bittersweet. I got out lighter because i gave a piece of my heart to each one of you, but also wiser because i took a bit of sensibility in return.
There are things i have internalised from you guys; things that will stay with me till the day i leave this world and pass on to the next. In order of oldest to freshest exes:
1. Always brush your teeth before going to sleep.
2. Love can come in any size, Zero or 16, because it's the chemistry that matters.
3. If your life together is at the expense of extensive collateral damage, consider the worth of your decision very carefully.
4. Think, "what's the worse that will happen?" and you'll be able to deal with any situation.
There you go. I'm misty-eyed, walking down the roads of Past and listening to Guzaarish songs. I feel nice in a bittersweet way, not very unlike how they all made me feel.
We were good together, guys. And now, it's all good.
So today, this post is dedicated to all the loves of my life. The times i spent with all of you were fulfilling, enriching, frustrating, bittersweet. I got out lighter because i gave a piece of my heart to each one of you, but also wiser because i took a bit of sensibility in return.
There are things i have internalised from you guys; things that will stay with me till the day i leave this world and pass on to the next. In order of oldest to freshest exes:
1. Always brush your teeth before going to sleep.
2. Love can come in any size, Zero or 16, because it's the chemistry that matters.
3. If your life together is at the expense of extensive collateral damage, consider the worth of your decision very carefully.
4. Think, "what's the worse that will happen?" and you'll be able to deal with any situation.
There you go. I'm misty-eyed, walking down the roads of Past and listening to Guzaarish songs. I feel nice in a bittersweet way, not very unlike how they all made me feel.
We were good together, guys. And now, it's all good.
Thursday, February 10, 2011
A year on many counts.
Like i haven't harped enough on it already, i'm saying it again: last year was awesome for me. And this year's been even better so far, although there are still a lot of things to fix.
My Nikon D3000 is a year old. In the photography calendar, it's roughly 6000 pictures old.
My job is a year old.
Red is almost four years old, and i have driven him for all of 360 hours. Chee thoo.
I'm really, really looking forward to the rest of the year because there are lots of good things to come. I can feel it in my bones.
My Nikon D3000 is a year old. In the photography calendar, it's roughly 6000 pictures old.
My job is a year old.
Red is almost four years old, and i have driven him for all of 360 hours. Chee thoo.
I'm really, really looking forward to the rest of the year because there are lots of good things to come. I can feel it in my bones.
Thursday, February 03, 2011
Stone.
It’s true that as my age has increased, so has my desire and ability to travel. More recently, I seem to have developed a veneer of (unnecessary) extreme unfriendliness and what I believe to be a cold attitude towards most people I come across in life. And this I see especially when I travel.
And this is what I feel most shitty about too, when I think of the two chutku boys in Hampi.
I was in the temple town mid-last month over a long weekend. Having visited the place five years earlier, I was shocked at how crowded it had become, and how many more foreigners were on the loose there. (Only later did I figure out that it was because of Sankranti and the Hampi Festival.) And of course, with foreigners comes more commercialisation and absolute fascination for the fair-skinned ones. So most locals assume that anybody with the colouring or an unfamiliar (read untypically Indian) nature is categorised as ‘foreigner’. So it was that the four of us who reached on Friday afternoon ended up being mistaken for foreigners. That my camera appeared to be big-ass, and I appeared to be a big-ass photographer didn’t help any.
And that’s why, when we climbed the hillock next to Virupaksha Temple, people walked up to us and asked us take pictures of them with my camera, or just stared into the picture viewer from behind me as I kept clicking. Most of them were shady, so my hackles went up immediately and my armour of prickles fell into place. I gave everybody cold looks, turned around and questioned a few Peeping-over-shoulder Toms with “Is there a problem?” or “Excuse me?” in a venom-drenched voice. In the middle of all this, two little boys, egged on by a bunch of teenage hooligans, approached me and asked me to take a picture. I made disgusted faces and followed it up with an unfriendly, I-don’t-have-time-for-this “Okay, stand.” I figured they were going to be cocky young gits.
And that’s when things changed. Because this is how those two boys stood for the picture.
After posing for the picture, they came up to see it. And they smiled big smiles that penetrated my armour, tore through my ribs and squeezed my heart to create pain-pleasure. And then they just walked away. Maybe I would have done something more than just let them go, maybe I would have smiled back at them, maybe I would’ve taken a better picture – I’ll never know. Because by then, the scoundrel teenagers who had egged them on came along for a peep at the picture over my shoulder, and my armour quickly fell back in place to defend me.
Now, every time I see this picture, I want to cry because I was so unfriendly to the two chutkus for no fault of theirs, or for that matter, for no reason. I feel like my heart’s being injected with a more-than-healthy dose of pain because I didn’t give the Maybes that ran through my mind any closure.
More than anything, every time I see this picture, I hate myself for turning into this cold person.
And this is what I feel most shitty about too, when I think of the two chutku boys in Hampi.
I was in the temple town mid-last month over a long weekend. Having visited the place five years earlier, I was shocked at how crowded it had become, and how many more foreigners were on the loose there. (Only later did I figure out that it was because of Sankranti and the Hampi Festival.) And of course, with foreigners comes more commercialisation and absolute fascination for the fair-skinned ones. So most locals assume that anybody with the colouring or an unfamiliar (read untypically Indian) nature is categorised as ‘foreigner’. So it was that the four of us who reached on Friday afternoon ended up being mistaken for foreigners. That my camera appeared to be big-ass, and I appeared to be a big-ass photographer didn’t help any.
And that’s why, when we climbed the hillock next to Virupaksha Temple, people walked up to us and asked us take pictures of them with my camera, or just stared into the picture viewer from behind me as I kept clicking. Most of them were shady, so my hackles went up immediately and my armour of prickles fell into place. I gave everybody cold looks, turned around and questioned a few Peeping-over-shoulder Toms with “Is there a problem?” or “Excuse me?” in a venom-drenched voice. In the middle of all this, two little boys, egged on by a bunch of teenage hooligans, approached me and asked me to take a picture. I made disgusted faces and followed it up with an unfriendly, I-don’t-have-time-for-this “Okay, stand.” I figured they were going to be cocky young gits.
And that’s when things changed. Because this is how those two boys stood for the picture.
After posing for the picture, they came up to see it. And they smiled big smiles that penetrated my armour, tore through my ribs and squeezed my heart to create pain-pleasure. And then they just walked away. Maybe I would have done something more than just let them go, maybe I would have smiled back at them, maybe I would’ve taken a better picture – I’ll never know. Because by then, the scoundrel teenagers who had egged them on came along for a peep at the picture over my shoulder, and my armour quickly fell back in place to defend me.
Now, every time I see this picture, I want to cry because I was so unfriendly to the two chutkus for no fault of theirs, or for that matter, for no reason. I feel like my heart’s being injected with a more-than-healthy dose of pain because I didn’t give the Maybes that ran through my mind any closure.
More than anything, every time I see this picture, I hate myself for turning into this cold person.
Monday, January 24, 2011
Tuesday, January 18, 2011
The weather today: warm, fuzzy and happy.
Kadmon ko sambhalein,
Nazron ka kya karein?
Nazron ko sambhalein,
To dil ka kya karein?
Dil ko sambhaley zubaan
Ishq hua hi hua...
Yes, i'm in a happy, sunshiny mood today.
Nazron ka kya karein?
Nazron ko sambhalein,
To dil ka kya karein?
Dil ko sambhaley zubaan
Ishq hua hi hua...
Yes, i'm in a happy, sunshiny mood today.
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
Burday Shurday.
The realisation that i'm going to be 28 (!!!!!!) soon, is hitting me big time. And i want to do something different, something that will give me the sort of peace i have been seeking for years now.
So i want to spend the day along. Maybe ride somewhere quiet with a book and good food for company. Or spend a day watching random movies at Fun Cinemas. Or perhaps that day i have planned for Hard Rock Cafe. Hmm.
I also want to gift myself something. Three choices:
- A Nikon lens
- An external hard drive: my pictures will eventually have to get off my laptop!
- An HP Mini
I have no idea what i'll indulge in, what i'll buy, what i'll do. No harm delaying the decision by another week, i guess.
So i want to spend the day along. Maybe ride somewhere quiet with a book and good food for company. Or spend a day watching random movies at Fun Cinemas. Or perhaps that day i have planned for Hard Rock Cafe. Hmm.
I also want to gift myself something. Three choices:
- A Nikon lens
- An external hard drive: my pictures will eventually have to get off my laptop!
- An HP Mini
I have no idea what i'll indulge in, what i'll buy, what i'll do. No harm delaying the decision by another week, i guess.
Saturday, January 08, 2011
New Year Realisations.
I don't believe in resolutions, they never work for me. I do think that every year brings new realisations with it, though. So, these are the things i have realised so far:
1. I'm a home bird. No matter where i go, i'll want to come back and sleep on my bed and pee in my loo and ride on my bike without a pillion and meet my friends and have time to myself.
2. I do not understand the idea of open relationships, or for that matter, 'open endings' being the new closure for relationships.
3. I can deal with heartbreaks. Hell, yeah!
4. 27 was the best age of my life. I loved that year. If i could re-live it, i would. Over and over.
5. I'm good enough at photography to want to hold an exhibition. Please, the pictures in the previous post are nothing to judge me by. I chose the worst ones on purpose.
6. I get claustrophobic when people start getting (metaphorically) too close to me.
7. I have to change people's impression of me as a scary person.
8. My friend says she has 'this feeling' that i'm going to get married this year. I know that that window of opportunity for marriage is closing again for me, and i'm the one pulling the shutters down.
9. I love my life. Pain, flirtations, uncertainties, responsibilities, fog in my head, restlessness, boyfriend-lessness, the sentimental-mad-irritable part of me - everything included. Would i trade any of it? Umm... Yes, waiter, bring me one Boyfriend; medium spicy please.
10. I can't watch my parents growing old. I hate the feeling of helplessness that accompanies it.
11. I'm going to try and finish a book of short stories this year.
12. I have to get my passport done. Because i want to go to Australia this year. I even checked fares. 40K round-trip, travel only. Not bad no?
13. Screw the world, i'll do what i like and what i believe is right!
14. I'm starting to look old.
15. Weight-loss, not priority. Staying fit, top priority.
Any of you got realisations you might want to share?
1. I'm a home bird. No matter where i go, i'll want to come back and sleep on my bed and pee in my loo and ride on my bike without a pillion and meet my friends and have time to myself.
2. I do not understand the idea of open relationships, or for that matter, 'open endings' being the new closure for relationships.
3. I can deal with heartbreaks. Hell, yeah!
4. 27 was the best age of my life. I loved that year. If i could re-live it, i would. Over and over.
5. I'm good enough at photography to want to hold an exhibition. Please, the pictures in the previous post are nothing to judge me by. I chose the worst ones on purpose.
6. I get claustrophobic when people start getting (metaphorically) too close to me.
7. I have to change people's impression of me as a scary person.
8. My friend says she has 'this feeling' that i'm going to get married this year. I know that that window of opportunity for marriage is closing again for me, and i'm the one pulling the shutters down.
9. I love my life. Pain, flirtations, uncertainties, responsibilities, fog in my head, restlessness, boyfriend-lessness, the sentimental-mad-irritable part of me - everything included. Would i trade any of it? Umm... Yes, waiter, bring me one Boyfriend; medium spicy please.
10. I can't watch my parents growing old. I hate the feeling of helplessness that accompanies it.
11. I'm going to try and finish a book of short stories this year.
12. I have to get my passport done. Because i want to go to Australia this year. I even checked fares. 40K round-trip, travel only. Not bad no?
13. Screw the world, i'll do what i like and what i believe is right!
14. I'm starting to look old.
15. Weight-loss, not priority. Staying fit, top priority.
Any of you got realisations you might want to share?
Tuesday, January 04, 2011
And a happy new yaar to you too.
Kem cho kem cho bhai ben! Maja ma? I'm back from Gujarat after a two-week long holiday. Not the first choice of vacationing for normal people, but you'd be surprised at how much the state has to offer to tourists: we barely managed to cover half the places.
The itinerary: Gir, Somnath, Bhuj, Dhordo, Ahmedabad, Diu, Baroda.
We stayed at Gir Birding Lodge, separated by a cement wall from the forest. (No, no chance of the lions jumping over to feast on humans.) It's the perfect place to forget that civilisation exists outside of the property. A safari one day, and a day trip to Somnath the other, followed by a bus ride - the most uncomfortable one for me, ever - the next day to Ahmedabad more or less summarises this leg of the trip. We didn't spot lions on the safari, but were fascinated enough by the Neelgai and green pigeons.
My first view of the salt desert left me breathless. It was an expanse of white for as far as the eye could see. During the day, the water evaporated, leaving the salt surface hard and easy to walk on. As night approaches and the temperature begins to drop, the surface moistens and little puddles of salt form across the desert. It would've been worth every pain to watch it in the night, but we had no such luck. By 8 p.m, we were taken back to our tents.
The next day, we were piled into mini buses along with thousands of Gujarati families to Kala Dongra - the highest point in Kutch from where you can see the state border and, if you stretch your imagination a little, the India-Pakistan border. We exited the place fast enough to get to the actual Indo Pak border. Unfortunately for us, we made it as far as the bridge that marks the beginning of the BSF because the tour organisers had failed to acquire permission to visit the border. Disappointed, we made our way back to White Rann and visited the salt desert again in the evening as a sort of consolation prize.
Diu was next on the map, and for me this was the high-point of the trip. Because it was an island, you could stop anywhere and just run out onto the beach. And what beaches! Virgin, golden and absolutely picturesque. I think i'm going to visit the place once a year, i'm so in love with it. Diu also happens to be the only place in Gujarat where alcohol is legal (and it's dirt cheap), so it isn't unreal to say that the place is a cleaner, non-commercial Goa. Three days at the place just didn't seem enough.
It was with a heavy heart that we left for Baroda, but once there, we couldn't stop admiring the city. Chiefly historical, the place is a mix of the old world and the new. That was another place where we went mad shopping: heavy, pretty costume jewellery for dirt cheap, beautiful sarees and lovely slippers. Having spent close to two days there roaming the city and indulging our wallets, we left for Ahmedabad.
At Ahmedabad, we visited the night market at Law Garden. Resplendent, colourful and so alive, i wanted to live there. There was everything - pillow covers to blouses, purses to murals and more, all soaked in the style of Gujarati craftsmanship. Even more exciting, we went for a farmhouse party, complete with a dance floor, DJ, booze, food and party clothes, in Ahmedabad. A surprise for a city that's so Gandhi in everything it does, but a really enjoyable experience that saw us there till the end of the party (yeah, staying till the party ends is in our blood).
New Year's Eve was a quiet one, spent at NID. New crowd, new sentiments, new experience. I liked.
I was back in Bangalore on the 1st of January, battling the demons i had left behind. But it felt good coming back. Guess it's true what they say, no matter where you go and what you do, there's no place like home.Friday, December 17, 2010
Okay bye bye.
Year end's here! Time to travel again!
I'm off tomorrow to Gujarat for the Rann Utsav, and Gir and Diu and Ahmedabad and Baroda and Lothal and Narmada and so, so much fun. But there's also fear, the kind that grips and paralyses me just before i travel to any place for a loooong time. Plus, there are a lot of other things playing in my head, but i'm going to take this as it comes.
So for all of you out there, Merry Christmas and New Year and all that, and i'll catch you guys when i'm back next year!
Adios amigos y amigas!
I'm off tomorrow to Gujarat for the Rann Utsav, and Gir and Diu and Ahmedabad and Baroda and Lothal and Narmada and so, so much fun. But there's also fear, the kind that grips and paralyses me just before i travel to any place for a loooong time. Plus, there are a lot of other things playing in my head, but i'm going to take this as it comes.
So for all of you out there, Merry Christmas and New Year and all that, and i'll catch you guys when i'm back next year!
Adios amigos y amigas!
Tuesday, December 07, 2010
And it all comes back.
So, the Boy is back. For a month, for his sister's wedding. And for some reason, when he called me totally out of the blue after more than a year of silence, he expected things to be just the way they were. Really, are they all such nincompoops?
I gasped when he said his name over the phone, and i was exceedingly slow in my responses because the call caught me unawares. And then i consciously calmed myself down, waited for the rest of those traitor emotions to take over, but they didn't. Seems like something has changed after all.
G kept advising me to maintain my dignity and not give in and call or message him, and i didn't. Till yesterday. Because all said and done, shared intimacy can never be shrugged away as easily as one thinks - it always takes truckloads of effort, and even then there are leftover feelings.
So i said, to hell with dignity, and messaged him.
And now, i'm done. Now i want my dignity to remain, so that's where i stop.
In other news, I'm off for another long trip in December covering most of Gujarat. And i'm really, really looking forward to it. Gir, Somnath, Rann of Kutch, Diu, Saputara Hills, Mount Abu, Baroda and then back to Bangalore.
I don't eat ice so often any more, so i'm guessing that's a good thing.
Why are hickies and pregnancy viewed in two different lights? I mean, they're both signs of your sexual activity, and pregnancy screams out "i effed around! woo hoo!" louder than blood clots, and still blood clots are a shameful thing and pregnancy is not. Bah, double standards. (This was a 'just by the way' thing.)
I am of the opinion that half the time, the people we fall in love with are people we made to fall in love with by other people. It's amazing how psychological conditioning works. The rare cases when it happens by our own will power are possibly the ones that last. And on the same lines, there's no such thing as lasting love.
I've started putting on weight again because i stopped exercising. And i hate it absolutely, but i don't want to gym because i find it exceedingly boring now.
Two days ago, i had the first Beef Burger of my life. It was alright, though the meat could've been spicier.
N's getting married, and i'm her Maid of Honour. Another first. Woo hoo!
It's been a great year so far!
I gasped when he said his name over the phone, and i was exceedingly slow in my responses because the call caught me unawares. And then i consciously calmed myself down, waited for the rest of those traitor emotions to take over, but they didn't. Seems like something has changed after all.
G kept advising me to maintain my dignity and not give in and call or message him, and i didn't. Till yesterday. Because all said and done, shared intimacy can never be shrugged away as easily as one thinks - it always takes truckloads of effort, and even then there are leftover feelings.
So i said, to hell with dignity, and messaged him.
And now, i'm done. Now i want my dignity to remain, so that's where i stop.
In other news, I'm off for another long trip in December covering most of Gujarat. And i'm really, really looking forward to it. Gir, Somnath, Rann of Kutch, Diu, Saputara Hills, Mount Abu, Baroda and then back to Bangalore.
I don't eat ice so often any more, so i'm guessing that's a good thing.
Why are hickies and pregnancy viewed in two different lights? I mean, they're both signs of your sexual activity, and pregnancy screams out "i effed around! woo hoo!" louder than blood clots, and still blood clots are a shameful thing and pregnancy is not. Bah, double standards. (This was a 'just by the way' thing.)
I am of the opinion that half the time, the people we fall in love with are people we made to fall in love with by other people. It's amazing how psychological conditioning works. The rare cases when it happens by our own will power are possibly the ones that last. And on the same lines, there's no such thing as lasting love.
I've started putting on weight again because i stopped exercising. And i hate it absolutely, but i don't want to gym because i find it exceedingly boring now.
Two days ago, i had the first Beef Burger of my life. It was alright, though the meat could've been spicier.
N's getting married, and i'm her Maid of Honour. Another first. Woo hoo!
It's been a great year so far!
Thursday, November 18, 2010
A penny for my thought, anyone?
On the way back from Grandma's last evening, my parents were talking about something bad that had happened to somebody: a traumatic experience that has left everybody invovled, rattled. Dad, after a moment of thought, heaved a sigh and wondered aloud about why God puts people through such pain. They're people who've never wished harm on anybody and have lived their lives as good human beings.
Which got me thinking: What if we're all wrong in the way we see this?
What if it's not God who's putting us through the pain? What if it's the work of El Diablo?
Really, if everything said about God is true, then He should stand for all that's good, and only that. I think it's the devil that puts us through the tests to see if we still emerge singing praises of God, or just give up and live a Godless life. So when we say, "Why is he putting us through this?", we should start meaning the fallen angel and not God.
Maybe even God will agree with my perspective.
Which got me thinking: What if we're all wrong in the way we see this?
What if it's not God who's putting us through the pain? What if it's the work of El Diablo?
Really, if everything said about God is true, then He should stand for all that's good, and only that. I think it's the devil that puts us through the tests to see if we still emerge singing praises of God, or just give up and live a Godless life. So when we say, "Why is he putting us through this?", we should start meaning the fallen angel and not God.
Maybe even God will agree with my perspective.
Monday, November 08, 2010
Of days in Mumbai.
I've spent the last ten days in the star-studded city of Mumbai. It was a most refreshing trip, and i come back a new person.
I blew close to 20 grand on shopping - a stupidity i will pay for dearly over the next few months. I mean, who goes to Mumbai and shops for 20K? I did manage to get a lot of good stuff though (bet you're thinking, "you'd better have!"), and quite a bit of it for the family. But still.
I managed to go to some new eating places, travelled the Sea Link, drove down to Ali Baugh to have a (totally sucky) meal at the Radisson, partied at the most happening place in town, took lots of pictures, recreated the infamous Bailey's night at Hyderabad, learned a few secrets, vegetated, experienced the most amazing Thai foot massage and of course, shopped like the whole concept was going out of fashion. Pictures will follow shortly. Like, the minute i'm over the vacation lag. And the trauma of sporting a round face with plump cheeks thanks to all the eating!
I blew close to 20 grand on shopping - a stupidity i will pay for dearly over the next few months. I mean, who goes to Mumbai and shops for 20K? I did manage to get a lot of good stuff though (bet you're thinking, "you'd better have!"), and quite a bit of it for the family. But still.
I managed to go to some new eating places, travelled the Sea Link, drove down to Ali Baugh to have a (totally sucky) meal at the Radisson, partied at the most happening place in town, took lots of pictures, recreated the infamous Bailey's night at Hyderabad, learned a few secrets, vegetated, experienced the most amazing Thai foot massage and of course, shopped like the whole concept was going out of fashion. Pictures will follow shortly. Like, the minute i'm over the vacation lag. And the trauma of sporting a round face with plump cheeks thanks to all the eating!
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
Goaaaaaaaah!
There's one thing i can say for this Goa trip: if all my previous days on the coast are enough to send me to hell - maybe even deeper, if one exists - then this weekend is enough to buy me some redemption.
It was my most sober, tame, un-wild Goa trip ever. And these days, because i'm not so fond of rambling on and using my writing ability as fillers for posts (which i seem to be doing pretty often - my writing skills are gradually getting insufferable), i'm going to do a High points and Low points number.
So, here goes:
High Points:
Bumming on the beach for endless hours under a parasol: the sea breeze ruffling my hair, some nice bods to check out, a foot massage, alternating between a dip in the water and lazing on a sun bed...
Dolphin spotting: For the first time ever, we woke up at an unearthly 8:30 a.m (unearthly for Goa, that is) to look for pink snub noses in the sea. The water was pretty choppy with no guarantee of us spotting dolphins, and the rains were lashing but we still managed to see a trio.
Cape Town Cafe: Good crowd, great music, strong OH mixes. Bye bye 'Oh-i'm-so-cool-look-at-all-the-men-ogling-at-me' firang chicks gyrating obscenely on the pole counter at Mambo's! Adios men with pleading eyes trying to find women to get them in to watch the firangs!
Parasailing: All i'd like to say is, sailing over the sea is the best adrenalin rush ever. (Apart from river rafting.)
Chicken Biryani at Souza Lobo and Prawn Vindaloo at a beach shack: Even Mom's Biryani pales in comparison. And the prawns, oh the prawns. Yummm.
Low points:
- Bickering with the water sports guy over his charges. It sort of just got out of control.
- People stuffing their tongues down other people's throats, age group 18 onwards.
- A brilliant friend hiring a bike and riding a different one all through our stay, only to realise when we returned it a half hour before heading to the bus stand to catch our bus back, that the bike she rode was not the one hired out. Result: a very pissed off K and N, even more irritated because of making it to the bus by the skin of our teeth.
- Love in the air. And us? Single women. Sigh.
Tuesday, October 12, 2010
Dandiya che!
School girl-ish excitement was the flavour of the night, along with some Pav Bhaji, eggless cake and cuisine. The women were dressed up in mirror-work ghagras complete with tons of Lambada-style bangles, temporary tattoos, face makeup and heavy headgear. The men were mostly in kurta pyjamas, but some wore the traditional Gujrati costumers. The sticks were many-coloured and blingy.
That's how the first Dandiya night of my life began.
We dressed up in our best and went to Palace Grounds last night, reaching at 9:00 p.m-ish. Surprisingly, we were early. Dandiya sticks were on sale - 20 bucks a pair - and since we didn't carry any of our own, we excitedly went and bought us some...bamboo sticks of various colours cut to size and lined with pink colour on the edges???
Dandiya nights are apparently places where the eyes meet and the hearts connect - either in the circle of dance or via heavy saree-clad 'Ben's and 'Bai's. So when we arrived, the Gujju boy of our gang was given a once-over by a Black Saree Ben snickering something into her companion's ear. The Gujju girls - one who hadn't been to a Dandiya night in 10 years and another who felt like it had been that long since she had done it - were also weighted and rated by their dance moves, smiles and... more. Our South Indian friend decided he was better off amidst the stalls packed with Gujrati flavours than wielding sticks to give a friendly smack to his rotating partners.
I was pretty freaked out by the intricacy of the dance movements - the garbha and what-not - till i got the basics, after which i was set for the night. Two rounds of basic, then another three with a bit more flourish, and i was bathed in sweat. The movement might be slow and the beats well-paced but you can bet your a** that it exercises your body like hell. And because the circle is so enormous, we dandiya-d with the same people over and over. I wouldn't be surprised if by the end of the night, we'd started addressing everybody by their family-given nicknames! We wound up at 2:30 in the morning after a last ten minutes of frenzied dancing during which the drummer fancied himself to be a band member of Rammstein.
Exiting the place and fully excited at having inaugurated my Dandiya experiences, i turned to my friends and said, "So, shall we do this on Wednesday too?" to which my friends replied with withering looks. Like me, i guess they'd never dreamed of dancing to Dandiya versions of Beedi Jalai Le (Omkara), Tadap Tadap Ke (Hum Dil De Chuke Sanam), Bin Tere Sanam (Umm, don't remember movie), and other very new-age disco numbers - one night of it was as much as they could handle.
Oh well, until next year then.
That's how the first Dandiya night of my life began.
We dressed up in our best and went to Palace Grounds last night, reaching at 9:00 p.m-ish. Surprisingly, we were early. Dandiya sticks were on sale - 20 bucks a pair - and since we didn't carry any of our own, we excitedly went and bought us some...bamboo sticks of various colours cut to size and lined with pink colour on the edges???
Dandiya nights are apparently places where the eyes meet and the hearts connect - either in the circle of dance or via heavy saree-clad 'Ben's and 'Bai's. So when we arrived, the Gujju boy of our gang was given a once-over by a Black Saree Ben snickering something into her companion's ear. The Gujju girls - one who hadn't been to a Dandiya night in 10 years and another who felt like it had been that long since she had done it - were also weighted and rated by their dance moves, smiles and... more. Our South Indian friend decided he was better off amidst the stalls packed with Gujrati flavours than wielding sticks to give a friendly smack to his rotating partners.
I was pretty freaked out by the intricacy of the dance movements - the garbha and what-not - till i got the basics, after which i was set for the night. Two rounds of basic, then another three with a bit more flourish, and i was bathed in sweat. The movement might be slow and the beats well-paced but you can bet your a** that it exercises your body like hell. And because the circle is so enormous, we dandiya-d with the same people over and over. I wouldn't be surprised if by the end of the night, we'd started addressing everybody by their family-given nicknames! We wound up at 2:30 in the morning after a last ten minutes of frenzied dancing during which the drummer fancied himself to be a band member of Rammstein.
Exiting the place and fully excited at having inaugurated my Dandiya experiences, i turned to my friends and said, "So, shall we do this on Wednesday too?" to which my friends replied with withering looks. Like me, i guess they'd never dreamed of dancing to Dandiya versions of Beedi Jalai Le (Omkara), Tadap Tadap Ke (Hum Dil De Chuke Sanam), Bin Tere Sanam (Umm, don't remember movie), and other very new-age disco numbers - one night of it was as much as they could handle.
Oh well, until next year then.
Thursday, October 07, 2010
He said, "Love you" and meant it.
The only man in my life so far who's said those words - almost an embarassed confession (not to anything clandestine, though) just before he hung up.
I was on the phone last evening, talking to him. We hadn't had a decent one-on-one despite my meeting him several times in the past couple of weeks, thanks to some stupid clingy bitch and a big crowd. I really wish i had the time to talk to him some more, but the conversation we had was enough. He couldn't stop thanking me for the gift, cracked a couple of bad-ass 'man' puns (his justification: "You were listening to a whole lot of shit from the other boys and laughing your ass off, i say one thing and you're all chee-chee?"), laughed, said we'd keep in touch. And just as we were hanging up: "I will remember you with fondness, thanks sweetheart, take care" and just before the phone could be disconnected, "Love you".
I knew it, i always knew it. The affection was mutual, from the beginning.
When the words were uttered yesterday, though, i didn't know how to react. I just cut the phone. And i gave a bit of a head jerk - sort of like how one is awakened from a stupor when they're slapped. It's just a comparison, and not how i felt at all.
Ironic, isn't it? That when i hear the words from boyfriends and lovers, i fervently wish they're true. And when it actually comes from a person i feel a great deal of respect, affection, even a healthy amount of attraction for, i'm unable to feel anything much except that this time, the words were genuine.
I was on the phone last evening, talking to him. We hadn't had a decent one-on-one despite my meeting him several times in the past couple of weeks, thanks to some stupid clingy bitch and a big crowd. I really wish i had the time to talk to him some more, but the conversation we had was enough. He couldn't stop thanking me for the gift, cracked a couple of bad-ass 'man' puns (his justification: "You were listening to a whole lot of shit from the other boys and laughing your ass off, i say one thing and you're all chee-chee?"), laughed, said we'd keep in touch. And just as we were hanging up: "I will remember you with fondness, thanks sweetheart, take care" and just before the phone could be disconnected, "Love you".
I knew it, i always knew it. The affection was mutual, from the beginning.
When the words were uttered yesterday, though, i didn't know how to react. I just cut the phone. And i gave a bit of a head jerk - sort of like how one is awakened from a stupor when they're slapped. It's just a comparison, and not how i felt at all.
Ironic, isn't it? That when i hear the words from boyfriends and lovers, i fervently wish they're true. And when it actually comes from a person i feel a great deal of respect, affection, even a healthy amount of attraction for, i'm unable to feel anything much except that this time, the words were genuine.
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